Beware! Tresspassers, transgressors and poor-choicemakers will be loved.


As always I blog in peace. And today I blog-at the tail end of what has been some of the craziest busy weeks of my life. Averaging a 16 hour work day and sometimes working through the night. I must honour my colleague Gerhard in this for his work, commitment and the value he has added over this period.

My swimming has taken a bit of a dive. (Yoh! That’s lame. No?) But I look forward to a little rest over the Christmas season and getting back into a disciplined swimming training routine.

I guess our busy-ness is indicative of the extent to which more and more individuals, communities and organizations are looking for Alternative methods of Dispute Resolution and also restorative solutions.

We are engaged in more and more legal disputes, school disputes, workplace disputes, family disputes and community disputes where we are bringing about restorative solutions. We often encounter a general perception that restorative solutions are softer, structureless and without result. It is not so! When done properly restorative processes achieve far greater truth, accountability and ultimately behavioural change. Whereas a punitive environment fosters, fear, denialism and often arrogance, a restorative process, properly done, fosters a high degree of learning.

Our methods in non-violent communication are taking hold. I was recently honoured to receive a dedication in a friend’s book, The Artisan and The Well, by Dino Brown. He says the following:

I have a friend that is revolutionary in the communication business, she teaches people to communicate effectively, and in her career she had influenced presidents, and stylists alike – her ability to teach this concept of communication through a process of mediation, so powerful that she will change the justice system in her country, and endeavours to make it a standard lawful practice, which as you may expect will save people millions, and protect those that are misunderstood. To date as a result I have actually learned how to communicate, and still have lots more to learn, but I have changed how I teach, and included this module in my courses right at he beginning. Some key points of Communication are 7:

7 Principles of Communication:

1. I will listen to you with the prime intent of understanding
2. When you are distraught I will avoid my natural tendency to fix and solve. I will be silent and present and I will get out of the way as you start to reveal yourself.
3. When I am prompted, and if I have something beautiful to add to the silence I will speak
4. I won’t play devil’s advocate
5. I will not point out your weaknesses or your mistakes. I will point out your value
6. I will be loyal to you when you are not present
7. I will make no assumptions, I will validate how you feel and I will speak no words that violate you

As you know we offer accreditation of Mediators and Arbitrators via a distance learning program or a five day workshop. Our next five day workshops are:

1.         2 to 6 December 2013 in Johannesburg.

2.         13 to 17 January 2014  Durban

3.         3-7 February 2014 Johannesburg

4.         24-28 Feb 2014 Cape Town

The accrediting agency is ADR Network SA and so you will be able to use the title Mediator and Arbitrator (ADR Network SA Accredited)

We are currently offering a 50% discount on either the Distance Program or any of the above five day workshops on condition that registration forms and proof of payment is received by 30 November 2013.

Past trainees include International Judges, university academics, attorneys, advocates, teachers, business leaders and others.

On completion you will be entitled to join our panel for referral work in Mediation and Arbitration

On registration you will be added to the closed discussion group for trainees on facebook.

Please get in touch urgently if you wish to register on this basis.

By the way, big up to Mackelmore at the music awards last night. After his speech my daughter Che asked if he had been hanging with me.

As always