Trauma Release

I am busy with material updates for 2016 for our ADR and Mediator Training

Although mediators do not assume the role of counsellor, it is important that they understand how individuals and groups behave during trauma and what the residual effects of trauma might be.

Trauma is said to be anything that overwhelms our natural coping skills. So whether we are dealing with parties going through a divorce, workplace conflict, business dissolution or more patently high conflict community or political disputes, we are dealing with probably dealing with traumatized individuals or groups

A book I have found very useful in its practical application in restorative circle work as well as personal practical application (as a mediator one is regularly exposed to high conflict and traumatic circumstance) is Trauma Release Exercise by Dr David Berceli. It’s easily available on Amazon Kindle.

Happy holidaying and much peace

Sheena Jonker

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Am I violent?

As a proponent of non-violence and non-adversarial methods of getting to justice, I spend a lot of time looking around me, glancing within and recognizing the violent impulses that I too have to dismantle and unlearn that obviously emanate from living in a violent world.

On our mediation training programs one of the first things we do is a bit of soul searching. We ask ourselves the big question: am I violent? We are invited to take a few steps back and think, really think about this.

Do I entertain violent thoughts?

Do I use violent words?

Do I ever act out violently? Violence is not limited to punching someone in the face or stabbing someone in the heart. No. Violence lives on a spectrum.

Do I ever use anger to subdue or control others?

Have I ever put my foot down on the accelerator in a rage and with passengers in my car?

Do I call people names?

Do I ever intentionally or recklessly cause others to feel “less than” or humiliated?

All of these things are born out of violent impulse that we have learned to use to survive or to navigate the world around us. There is plenty more I can add to the list.

But as a would be mediator or even as a seasoned mediator, this is one of the most crucial journeys we can go on. The journey of “am I violent” and “in what way am I violent?”. We cannot obliterate violent impulse in an instant. What we can do is be aware and go about intentionally limiting the permission we give ourselves to think violently, speak violently and act out in violent ways.

And it’s one of the most powerful ways we can go about building peace in the world around us.


Sheena Jonker

Mediation Training and ADR Training:

Mediation processes:

ADR Processes including arbitration and restorative justice settlement processes:

Access to justice and public interest matters:

ADR and Mediator Training for the rest of the year and early 2016


We have completed our 5 day training program schedule for this year. Distance Learning Remains open to register and complete.

5 Day Training Early 2016

5 day training will resume in Durban, Johannesburg and Cape Town on the last Monday to Friday of January, February and March 2016

You can register until 25 November 2015 at 50 {db4c0d2959e302539fe96b7aa3161328ff99665e8aefb664444410c6414dd29e} of the normal fee (ie R 5999 instead of R 11 999) on any of the above programs or the Distance Learning Programs

In addition to that concession the first 10 registrations will receive a smart watch compatible with apple or Samsung, up to the value of R 2000. Specs and available colours can be requested

1 Day training in various aspects of ADR

For the rest of the year we will host one day workshops. Next Friday’s is as follows:

We are holding a one day ARBITRATION TRAINING next week follows:

When: 20 November 2013

Where: 11 Delamore Road Hillcrest, Durban and Constitution Hill Johannesburg and TBC in  Cape Town


Cost: R 1000 payable to ADR Network SA FNB Number 62488968888 Br 223726

Includes: manuals and certificate of attendance

We are holding a one day workshop in UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA FOR MEDIATORS as follows:

When: 27 November 2013

Where: 11 Delamore Road Hillcrest, Durban and Constitution Hill Johannesburg and TBC in  Cape Town


Cost: R 1000 payable to ADR Network SA FNB Number 62488968888 Br 223726

Includes: manuals and certificate of attendance


Kindest regards

Sheena Jonker


Mobile: 0843773340

Alternative Dispute Resolution, Mediation, Access to Justice, Restorative Justice

ADR Network SA (Pty) LTD for Private Dispute Resolution

ADR and Mediator Training

The Access to Justice Association of SA (NPO 135-398) for Access to Justice and Public Interest Matters



#feesmustfall #outsourcingmustfall to #feesarefalling and #outsourcingisfalling

Outsourcing has fallen at UCT: why is this an important win for all of us?
At common law a contract does not have to be fair to be lawful. For a contract to be lawful there must be consensus (agreement), the parties must have capacity to act, the terms must be legally and physically possible to perform and any formalities imposed by law or by the parties themselves must be adhered to.
But fairness is not a requirement. The employment relationship at common law must meet the above requirements to be lawful. At common law, there is, similarly no requirement of fairness. But the employment relationship, has, by its nature, a strong element of control and has its origins in the master/servant relationship of our common law. This means that the relationship is vulnerable to imbalanced power relations. Our legislators have thus attempted to impose the requirement of fairness onto the relationship statutorily via various measures in the LRA including collective bargaining, Basic Conditions of employment and various Employment Equity Mechanisms.
The culture of outsourcing and labour broking is a way in which some of the mechanisms which were intended to impose fairness onto the employment relationship can be circumvented. So at a very basic level a buffer is created between what would otherwise be employers and employees. This distance allows for what would have been the employer to distance himself/herself/itself from who would have otherwise been the employee and be far less accountable. There are many complexities and implications that are experienced by a worker where this “middle man” or agency relationship exists. Some are:
1. The worker is enduringly a contract worker without proper expectation of permanent employ
2. Because of the buffer/ “middle man” or agency cost, the worker tends to end up with less pay than would be the case if there were no such buffer
3. Relationally the worker doesn’t have the same connection that is meant to be born in good faith, trust and loyalty that is meant to be nurtured within the employment relationship
4. It is much easier for what would have been the employers to harden their hearts and shut down contract workers than would be the case in a proper employment relationship
Does this mean that there are no upsides to outsourcing and labour broking? No. But in a deeply divided society such as ours and one that is so profoundly unequal, outsourcing and labourbroking serves to deepen the disparity that is hurting us all. A close examination of the Marikana massacre shows that labour broking or outsourcing played a significant compounding role in the unfolding events that lead to the tragedy.
The youth in our land are leading the charge in dismantling some of the aspects intrinsic to a system that can sustainably advantage the few at the expense of the many, if it remains largely unchallenged.
We need to understand that in the broader scheme of things, in the interests of a more just, and therefore potentially safer world for the next generation (that’s our kids), the current movements lead by our students are actually in the interests of us all.
In peace
Sheena St Clair Jonker
Per ADR Network SA and the Access to Justice Association of SA private dispute resolution and ADR Training access to justice for poor and disenfranchised communities



Date Venue Selection
9-13 November 2015 Durban/Constitution Hill (Joburg) /Cape Town
25-29 January 2016 Durban/Constitution Hill (Joburg) /Cape Town
22-26 February 2016 Durban/Constitution Hill (Joburg) /Cape Town
14-18 March 2016 Durban/Constitution Hill (Joburg) /Cape Town

For registration packs for 5 day programs or Distance Learning please email



Upcoming ADR Network SA-Accredited Mediator Training


A reminder of upcoming 40 hour mediator training from 3-7 August in Durban, Johannesburg and Cape Town.

The cost is R 11 999 with monthly payment options and up to 50% subsidies on motivation of financial need.

The Thursday of each program covers court-annexed mediation and can be done as a one day program for those with prior training and at a cost of R 1000

For Registration Packs please email


Sheena Jonker